Since I have started my website, Instagram and Facebook sites, I have been asked on numerous occasions why I am doing this and what the point is. Well, I know most of you aren’t stupid and know there is money to be made in blogging. So, yes, I do hope to make money and have the ultimate freedom to travel the world and “work” from where-ever my plane lands. That is not the only reason I have started this new adventure in my life. A lot of it has to do with making a change and bettering myself and life.
Throughout my entire life I have always felt like I was doing things to make other people happy. Yes it’s always good to give but not to the point where you are not making yourself a priority. When I have been in relationships, I find myself putting so much into that relationship and not feeling like it was reciprocated. That’s a draining feeling. Why was I not loving myself as much as I was loving that other person? Not only in relationships but I always felt like something was missing… Like there was something better out there for me. Now it’s my turn! I remember saying as a very young child “you can’t be happy with someone else until you are happy with yourself first”. I think I was a pretty wise kid. But I didn’t take my own advice.
Maybe it’s something that comes with age, where you finally don’t care as much about what other people think. Whatever it is, I am embracing it. I am working on something that makes me happy. When I was young, I used to write in a journal and even write short stories for fun. Who knew that eventually I could write not only for fun because it’s something I love to talk and write about. But the potential to make good money at it too!
Big things are happening! Stay tuned!
This seems to be something that is an on-going task some days. It seems like it is so easy to think about the negative than positive. As I have mentioned before, I am in no way commenting from a medical point of view but on my own experiences. I am fully aware that many people suffer from clinic depression and my heart goes out to them. I can only begin the struggles they experience.
My experiences stem from several heartbreaks, terrible jobs and general life pressures that tend to get people down. Some times it doesn’t take much for a few of these things to feel all consuming over life. I have experienced spending days on end, feeling sorry for myself in bed while in one of these slumps. When I am stressed in any way, I tend to not eat (some stress eat, while others completely lose their appetite) and this leads me to feel weak and fatigued, leading me to not want to do anything even more. The vicious cycle. Of course there are times when I though the pain would never end – such as when I had to make the heartbreaking decision to put down my precious kitty when she was suffering from stomach cancer (I’m crying just thinking about it now).
The question is: How do we get ourselves out of these terrible times and switch those negative thoughts to positive? During the toughest of times I tell myself that it is OK to stay in bed and cry or scream or whatever you need to do to let the hurt out. But after a few days, I have had to force myself out of bed and start with little things, such as taking a shower. Doesn’t sound like much but it’s a start. I find it’s important to not overwhelm yourself when making a change. Start small. Instead of saying “I’m going to start going to the gym 5 days a week” maybe start by stretching in front of the TV at night, as I do. This helps me to take my mind off the stresses of the day and lets the blood flow to other parts of my body.
One thing that always drives me nuts is when people tell me “just don’t think about it” or “just think positive thoughts”. Easier said than done! This may be the worse advice ever (at least to me). I tend to be someone who cannot hold my feelings in. And why should I? When you are feeling down, it is so much easier to think about the negative than positive- misery loves company. But, like I said, start small. Watch a movie that makes you laugh. Go for a short walk to the park or along a river or pond (the ducks always make me smile). Write a message to yourself on your mirror that makes your smile. Start following inspirational quotes on your social media. Something will hit home for you at home point and help you to change your thoughts, if only for a moment. Every second counts!
If you have any methods of shifting your thoughts, I would love to hear them.
This past weekend I was fortunate be to be a part of my good friends wedding as a bridesmaid. The wedding was in a remote area on northern Vancouver Island. No TVs in the rooms, zero cell service and very little access to WIFI. Now, if anyone reading this has ever been a part of a wedding party, you know how busy the day can be. But, that was only 1 day. The rest of the weekend, we were free to go hiking, zip lining, paddle board, kayak or canoe and most of all spend time with people who many times we do not have time to see because of getting caught up in the every day busy lifestyle. So many times in life we don’t take the time to spent times with friends, family or even yourself. Through my travels I have learned the importance of watching a beautiful sunset or enjoying a cold beer with a old friend. It’s those moments that you take with you and reminisce about years later, not the hours I spent at work or staring at a screen by myself.
Over the course of the weekend, I kept overhearing people say how nice it was not be on their phones and take in the simple things like gazing at the stars. We often take for granted the simple things that nature has given us and forget how beautiful the world can be. I noticed people having actual conversations over dinner or sitting in the sun on the patio. We laughed when we realized we were having an “old fashion” debate about a topic when we couldn’t simply Google the answer… I’m not sure if we ever came to a conclusion on who was right.
Ever since I was young, I have always loved being outside and enjoying little things like watching the changing colours of a sunset over the ripples of a lake or ocean. It is weekends like these that make me realize the importance of disconnecting from technology and getting back to nature and myself.